Sexism and equity
Twas a little after 4am and I was lying in bed…Jenna had just crapped her pants and I had run her bedding down to the washing machine and Sarah was cleaning her up…and of course, nothing good happens after 4am…,not the least of which is sleep…
I was perusing LinkedIn and came across a thread of feminists and their allies decrying some random guy who had mistaken LinkedIn for Facebook or Tinder or Match.com…he had seen the photos this woman had posted of herself. I wont lie, she was very attractive and wasn’t some amateur photographer…while she is correct that to have men fawning over her on LinkedIn is not appropriate, the convoy of men-are-pigs bullhorns were out in full force…
Look, I am not a woman. I am not an attractive woman either. I don’t have dudes jerking off to my pretty face. I don’t have man-sluts trying to get in my pants or constantly letting me know they are thinking about me in dirty ways or sending me pictures of their unmentionables. I get that there is a lot of unwanted communication. But why is their unwanted communication so much more important than others?
Why is it so bad for a dude to tell a pretty girl she is pretty? Yes, that does not belong on LinkedIn. But if this guy were walking down the hall in his office building, why would it be so out of line for him to tell her that? It’s almost to the point that men cannot ask women out in case they would be offended/uncomfortable…
I get messages from strangers on a weekly basis too. Why can I just ignore them and move on without having to make a giant scene out of the unwanted spam in my mailbox? Asking me to come work for them is unwanted too!
The problem with the wokeness of the 21st century is that now nobody wants equality, because equality means it is your own damn fault for your own failures. You dont have to like things, but not every instance is a calamity. Women get to say no thank you the same as men, and we both have to let it roll off our back.
You dont want dick picks? Nobody does. No argument from me. But why is an innocent bit of flattery such an abomination? A man cannot say “you look very nice today” to a woman without the sexual harassment police slapping down their dick/slapping them on the wrist. Unfortunately women probably secretly like the attention. They dress like whores and when nobody notices they get depressed and commit suicide. But when somebody bites and says “you look very pretty today”, it must be an unwelcome advance.
Lest you forget about how humans procreate. Men and women seek out their complement, the one which they would like to spend their life with, making more tiny humans in their own (combined) image. Though perverts seek hot pieces of ass to grind, the rest seek smart, thoughtful, attractive persons. Women who want to be single for life should be prepared to put up their “thanks but no thanks” sign to every decent suitor. They don’t deserve to be inundated with dicks. But they should at least have the patience to be polite to the honest propositions.
And yes, the workplace is not quite appropriate for this kind of interaction. For folks who work for a living, this is where they interact with humans and see the behaviors that they think complement their own. Not everything is a demeaning bit of harassment.